Hold on dear young mamas and papas..hold on to the precious moments your little ones give you.. hold on to their hands a little longer.. hold on the endless hugs and kisses they give you.. hold on to their need of needing you for everything.. hold on .. hold on to their selfless love…
Im a mother of a 7 and a 4 yr old.. and ive grown in motherhood as they have grown in age. However- when my older child was an infant growing into a toddler i never realised how precious those selfless moments were – when they fed u the last crumb of their biscuit with their tiny ( and saliva smitten -i must add) fingers.. or they asked you to stay in bed woth them a little longer..or play silly games with them and then keep playing them over and over again because they just LOVED being with you.Not that those toddlers didnt have enough friends or didnt play enough in school-BUT – for them -we were the best !
Now that the older one is 7- shes grown into a young mature fiesty girl and doesnt want to hug me or kiss me as much as she used to ( or in front of others) , feels that holding hands is for the ‘little kids’ and her need for needing me is based a lot on getting thngs done. I dont mean to sound preachy but thats not her fault- its the age thing, and they becomes less selfless and more need based as they grow. I feel she still has a bit of selfless love in her and no matter ho much I scold her she still has the heart to forgive me in a heartbeat!
One day as I was getting her to do her homework- we had a regular cycle of patient learning and then shouting(me) ,followed by crying ( her) and then some productive learning again ( most of us go through that right ?! ) . Afterwards I thought that she must be unhappy with me right now.. that I should be calmer with her next time ..and felt very guilty . Well, the thing that she did next really surprised me and my heart melted like a big peice of glacier.. and before i knew it ..i had tears rolling out.
This is what happened : In one of her English assignments, she had to write codes for every alphabet and then write a sentence in the code language for me to guess. Once she finished – she pestered me to read it immmediately but i got busy and decoded it only at night.. and guess what she wrote : BEST MUM EVER. Yes thats whats she wrote. I was in tears ( sorry to repeat) and was so emotional.. I had just scolded her to finsh her work fast so that I could relax ! ( how selfish of me ) . So that day i realised that i still have my little girls selfless love and I’m holding onto that as much as I can 📷
Now I try and relive those moments of selfless love through my younger boy -He is 4 now and i keep thinking that the next time i will be so close to such kind of pure love will be when i have grandchildren !!! So- I try and hold on to moments for a few seconds more..every time he hugs me or kisses me or wants to spend time with me just because.Thats it – just because im there. He doesnt want anything in return .
As hes racing to grow from a toddler to a little young man,before he starts becoming conscious of his actions.. im trying to savour it all. Trying to document it all. trying to live it all. Of course i have my share of drama of tantrums and cries but all that just makes it sweeter at the end. After having a day of meltdowns and scoldings.. he still wants to hug me and kiss before he sleeps… and i just melt.. melt with the level of forgiveness he has for me . Thats whats amazing – they just forgive so easily. love so selflessly.
So hold on to that dear moms and dads.. Because very soon the little caterpillar will become a butterfly and fly off.
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